This has been one of the worst weeks since prior to my coming out days.
I betrayed a friend by posting pics of him on his sisters private photo site after he told me not to post his pics on photo sites like Flickr several months ago. I removed them all from the FlickR site at that time.
Last August, I posted these pictures to his sister's private photo site because she gave me the password (to post family pics I took at a birthday party at her house) and I thought she would think these other pictures cute and funny, I had no intention to go out and hurt him. These were pics of him in a womens wig from several years ago at Halloween and him oogling dancers at some bars. Some of his brother bartending shirtless too. He is out to his family as is his brother.
Last week she gave the password of the site to people who had taken pics at a family gathering so a lot of people had access to the site now. She saw the pics and was surprised and told my friend about it. After that he em,ailed me and some other friends about my being a snake in the grass and backstabber and that I am passive-aggressive (true) and using this to get back at him instead of confronting him.
I emailed him stating that it was poor judgement, not maliscioiusness, and I did not set out to hurt him. He sent an email back stating it wasnt a matter of forgivess but trust. He forgives me but doesnt trust me anymore. He still won't talk to me. I have called several times to apologize to him but no response back. We have been friends for ten years and I value his friendship and do not want to lose it.
Yesterday, I went to the doctors for a procedure that turned out to be OK. Then I went to two friends birthday party at Cafe Un Deux Trois on 44th Street & 6th, then to a new mixed bar called Q-T with a swimming pool that is gay on Thursdays night and then to the Ninth Avenue Club, formerly Cleo's. Tonight, its my friend Jeff's mothers surprise party. It sure feels good to be busy and surrounded by lots of friends :)
This is a random list going around the blog world. I have only done the things with x marks.
I . . .
(X) been in love (X) been dumped ( ) shoplifted ( ) been fired ( ) been in a fist fight ( ) snuck out of your parent's house ( ) been arrested
(x) gone on a blind date ( ) skipped school ( ) seen someone die ( ) been to Canada ( ) been to Mexico (x) been on a plane ( ) love someone or miss someone right now
(X) lain on your back and watched cloud shapes go by ( ) made a snow angel (X) flown a kite ( ) built a sand castle ( ) gone puddle jumping ( ) played dress up ( ) jumped into a pile of leaves ( ) gone sledding (X ) cheated while playing a game
(X) been lonely (X) fallen asleep at work/school ( ) used a fake id (X) watched the sun set ( ) felt an earthquake/tremor (X) been through a hurricane (too many) (x) touched a snake ( ) slept beneath the stars (x) been tickled (X ) been robbed (x) been misunderstood (daily)
( ) danced in the moonlight (x) liked the way you look ( ) witnessed a crime (X) questioned your heart ( ) been obsessed with post-it notes (cause I sell them) (X) squished barefoot through the mud (X) been lost (x) been to the opposite side of the country
( ) swum in the ocean (X) felt like dying (X) cried yourself to sleep ( ) played cops and robbers ( ) recently colored with crayons ( ) sung karaoke ( ) paid for a meal with only coins
(X) done something you told yourself you wouldn't (X) made prank phone calls ( ) laughed until some kind of beverage came out of your nose (X) caught a snowflake on your tongue ( ) danced in the rain (x) written a letter to Santa Claus ( ) been kissed under a mistletoe (x) blown bubbles ( ) made a bonfire on the beach (x) crashed a party (x) gone roller-skating
( ) glued your hand to something ( ) got your tongue stuck to a flag pole ( ) kissed a fish (x) sat on a roof top (x) screamed at the top of your lungs ( ) done a one-handed cartwheel ( ) talked on the phone for more than 6 hours (x) stayed up all night ( ) didn't take a shower for a week
( ) pick and ate an apple right off the tree ( ) climbed a tree ( ) had a tree house ( ) are scared to watch scary movies alone (x) believe in ghosts ( ) have more then 30 pairs of shoes
( ) jumped into a pool/hot tub/lake with all your clothes on (x) been told you're hot by a complete stranger ( ) broken a bone (x) been easily amused ( ) caught a fish then ate it ( ) caught a butterfly (x) laughed so hard you cried (x) cried so hard you laughed
(x) cheated on a test ( ) cheated on a lover ( ) have a Britney Spears CD (x) forgotten someone's name ( ) French braided someone's hair (x) gone skinny dipping in a pool ( ) have had a fantasy over someone you love as a good friend (x) sun tanned naked ( ) ran naked in the rain
What about you? If you blog this, leave a note in the comments box so we can go over and see.
I had a great time last night at a gay male nudist party in Brooklyn. This wasn't a part of the official Males au Naturel parties, but a private gathering run by a gay couple who also belong to MAN. MAN's website is at Males au Naturel
There were a lot of friendly guys there. The absence of clothes makes the attitude go away. I have been to a few MAN parties in the past, but they were "official club parties", meaning no fooling around or touching. There was quite a lot of that last night, especially given the fact they have a hot tub in the backyard. The cold weather didn't stop it from being full the whole night long ;)
Its great being able to be nude around other gay men who enjoy being nude also. I used to be nude only at the beach or when I go to sleep before joinging MAN. None of my friends were into doing it, so its nice to be with others who enjoy the lifestyle. Some of the couples there met at MAN and are always nude at home. It is a relaxing and freeing experience.
There are annual gay nude gatherings in the spring/summer for: